Could someone give me serious advice?

[Chaos]

Alright my parents have been divorced for about 10 years, and every once and a while I had to go to my Dad's house. Last time I saw him or talked to him, I moved into his house for 2 weeks and ran away because he wouldn't let me leave and it was terrible. He wouldn't even let me talk to my Mom. Every year he asks me to live with him for the summer, I'm thinking 'Fuck no' it just puts me in an awkward situation were I say "no" as nice as possible. I usually say because I'll miss my friends, witch I'd miss them a lot more than I would miss my Dad. Well recently he called me(I haven't seen him in 8 months) because my Aunt gave him my number :(. He wants me to come over on my Weekend off, and I feel like it's a total waste of my free-time. Nothing to do there at all, and I still have to help around at his house. I don't even know where he lives now, he's always living with a different friend. I work and go to school and then waste my weekend at his house? No.

So my question is, what's the nicest way to tell my Dad I don't want to go over his house? I used to always make excuses like "I'm going to a birthday this weekend" or something. All excuses do is delay going over to his house though. It would help if I knew a way to nicely say that I don't want to see him ever unless I do it on my own time.

[Flash]

Chaos your story sounds to me. Is your fathers lonely kind of I guess. He has no one to talk to why don't you just set him straight and yourself and just say it out loud 'Father , I'm sorry but I have to go to work and school etc. I really don't feel like going over this weekend. If I wish to come over to your house then I will call you ok ?'.

[Locke]

Hey, take the time you can get with him. He doesn't see you very often, and he's probably missing you. I know that I wish I could have had more time with my dad, I regret not talking to him more. I used to think it was lame to talk to him when he called me up until when he wasn't calling as regularly. He started getting really busy and didn't call as often. My father died this summer, and I regret not having even just one more call with him. There is so much I wanted to find out about him, his childhood, his life, his plans. I really thought that when I was older I could have time with him to do all of this, and it was all ripped away from me. I always told myself "When I'm older I'm going to go visit him and we're going to go camping and fishing just like old times". That time never came and I think what you should take from this is that you should be grateful for your father, even if he doesn't seem too interesting. Get to know him, I'm sure you two have some common ground. Don't leave it to the last minute like I did, and run out of precious time together. Hope this helps.

[Turkey]

I need advice, My parents are getting divorced, I love the both equaly but i will have to chose the one i want to live with.  :-\

[jaik]

I need advice, My parents are getting divorced, I love the both equaly but i will have to chose the one i want to live with.  :-\

This isn't your thread.

@OP
I really suggest listening to what Locke said.

[Chaos]

Damn Locke, I feel like I don't deserve a father now. He takes me camping and fishing as well, I planned to do all that when I got older too. Well the thing is, he's gotten me into to DUI's and both times he got caught because he crashed. He's not the best person, he makes a lot of mistakes. Every time I go over he's goin to some sort of party. I guess I got his genes because that's what I planned on doing this weekend. I can't bring him along though, he never has to be away from his friends. He wouldn't come down here and visit me, away from his friends. I guess I'll just deal with it or I'll make some excuse, this weekend only since I got Monday off and I don't want to stay that long.

[Madcombat]

Im in the exact same problem just more difficult, the awnser you seek is difficult.  What I do is try to keep a peace between my family but my dad seems to f**k that up by saying Bull**it behind my back to my mother.  You want to see him for about afew days then go back with your mother, the only awkward situation is with you is that your father is going to try and keep you there.  What you need to try to do is Orginise a date to go there then come back.  Yeah I hate going to my fathers house because it is boring as hell, I only go there to see my brother, plus I have the situation of not trying to hurt my mothers feelings nor my fathers like you.  The problem you have is very dodgy and I advise to you to be highly aware of everything around you.

You say you dont know where he lives? Finding out is your first priority.
Your father dont let you contact your mother?  Obviously somthing dodgy, get a cellphone or a laptop to communicate with your mother.
He wants to keep you at his house to live there?  Obviously this can be a problem yet if you know where you are it wont be a problem.  If he tries to hold you at his house escape and retreat home. (Advised you know where you are aswell as having a cellphone)

Family business can be dodgy, I have no idea about your past with your Father and mother but it is probly a awfull story like anyother and the best advise I can really give you is to be highly aware.

Also Locky has a serious point, one time or another you will want to spend time to know your father, I slightly recently did until he made shit become dodgy.

(Small section to Alex: Which one has done the most for you, which one has actually done somthing?  Choose the best one although it feels bad, it is about you not them.)

[Crimzon_Reaper]

Damn Locke, I feel like I don't deserve a father now. He takes me camping and fishing as well, I planned to do all that when I got older too. Well the thing is, he's gotten me into to DUI's and both times he got caught because he crashed. He's not the best person, he makes a lot of mistakes. Every time I go over he's goin to some sort of party. I guess I got his genes because that's what I planned on doing this weekend. I can't bring him along though, he never has to be away from his friends. He wouldn't come down here and visit me, away from his friends. I guess I'll just deal with it or I'll make some excuse, this weekend only since I got Monday off and I don't want to stay that long.

Maybe not now, but it'd be good if you visited your father for two days some time. It'll help him cope with life just that bit easier, and let's face it - Some dads aren't the best, but they really do just wanna take care of their children.

But, eh. I hate giving people advice like this, because I feel it's not my place.

[Chaos]

I guess I'll have to go. My mom is kind of forcing me to. My Dad's good but he's very controlling. Living with him would be terrible, he'd be all in my business, and even though my mom is in my business too, she can't force me to show her texts and stuff and my dad can. My Dad is nowhere near as bad as my step dad though.. That's another story.